
The Forest in July
Guidebook
Homecoming

by Hannah Fraser Moore
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Perhaps home was never something we were trying to return to.
Perhaps it was something we were slowly learning to become.
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“It is worse to stay where one does not belong at all than to wander about lost for a while and looking for the psychic and soulful kinship one requires”
Clarissa Pinkola Estés
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Our Search for Home
We can spend years looking for the right place.
The right relationship, the right career, the right city, the right life.
We grow restless, we move, we leave, we begin again, certain that the next chapter is where we’ll finally be met.
We mistake each new beginning for homecoming.
What we are looking for is a place inside ourselves where we're no longer required to hide.
Where the parts of ourselves that have threatened belonging no longer have to wait outside.
Home is among the oldest symbols the psyche keeps.
It is where we first learned the terms of belonging: what won us affection, what won us praise, and what we had to reject to be remain inside.
The price of admission was expensive, and many of us continue paying it long after we've left home. We carry the cost like skin.
Some of us spend a lifetime trying to rebuild our first home.
Some spend a lifetime fleeing it.
Some spend a lifetime asking another person to become it.
Then wonder why love cannot bear the weight of that responsibility.
So, the question for July is about finding home.​
We want to know: can we now build a home whose conditions are truly our own?
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Reflection
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​Close your eyes for a moment before you answer.
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Don’t think about your childhood home.
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Instead notice…
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What image comes when you hear the word home?
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Where does your psyche instinctively return when you feel frightened, lonely or overwhelmed?
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What has become “home” simply because you have returned there so many times?
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What part of you still waits outside the door?
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Home as Archetype
In Jungian psychology an archetype is an organising pattern, a riverbed cut into the psyche long before we arrive, shaping where our experience flows.
We do not learn these archetypal patterns. We inherit them.
They govern how we meet ourselves, each other, and the world before consciousness is invited to the table.
The archetype of Home is among the oldest of them.
Before it is a house, it is a feeling.
Before it is an address, it is an experience.
Before you can remember your first home, your nervous system had already finished its study of it, already drawn its conclusions about whether it was safe to rest, whether your needs were welcome, whether you belonged, whether you could be wholly yourself without forfeiting the connection you absolutely couldn’t survive without.
Those conclusions became the lens through which you see your life.
Notice who you become when you walk back through your parents’ door. Watch how quickly you are eight years old again, is there a recognisable hunger, perhaps? A different way of talking? A conformity to certain views, or a shared sense of humour. Notice what returns before you choose it; a familiar silence, or anxiety, do you watch the same hand reaching for approval that was never truly there.
The body always remembers how it was supposed to be.
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This is why home remains so insistent a symbol across a life and culture.
Like every archetype, Home wears two faces.
There is light and shadow.
It can be the place that feeds a life. Or the place that slowly buries one.
The shell that once kept us alive can become the shell we mistake for identity and never leave.
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What protected us at five can imprison us at forty and the cruelty is that it still feels like safety. That is how it keeps us locked in.
This month we don’t want to reject the homes we came from, but we want to explore the following question:
Does the home you carry inside you, still allow you to grow?
Or did you outgrow it years ago, and simply never told yourself you were free to go?
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Reflection
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When were you last fully at home in yourself and who were you with?
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Whose presence lets your body unclench, and whose makes you brace before they’ve said a word?
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Where are you still making yourself smaller to keep a belonging you may have already outgrown?
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What were you doing the last time you felt yourself expand rather than contract?
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What keeps you paying rent in a home where you were never truly met?
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The Way Home
Before we can begin building an inner home, we first need to discover the one we already carry. Much of that inner landscape lives beyond ordinary thought, speaking instead through image, symbol and feeling. This practice offers an opportunity to meet that landscape directly, allowing the psyche to reveal what it already knows about home, belonging and the place within you that longs to be inhabited.
This practice is based on Jung’s method of Active Imagination.
It may seem like a visualisation, but it isn't.
In visualisation, we decide what appears.
Here, we wait.
We allow the psyche to speak in the language it has always preferred:
Image.
As you begin, remember two things:
Don’t force the image.
Don’t dismiss whatever arrives.
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The Practice
Close your eyes.
Take three slow, deep breaths.
Imagine you are walking through the forest
Notice a path in front of you that you have never seen before.
Follow it.
Eventually you arrive somewhere.
You are not making this place.
You are letting it come to you.
If you catch yourself designing it, stop, and wait for what arrives instead.
It may be...
a cottage.
A clearing.
A cave.
A tree.
A fire.
A riverbank.
A doorway.
Trust what appears is enough.
Walk towards it slowly.
Notice what happens in your body as you approach.
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Can you enter?​
Does someone welcome you?
Is it empty?
Does it feel familiar?
Does it feel peaceful?
Or does it feel strangely uncomfortable?
Stay there for a while.
Now ask the place a question.
Any question.
Why have you shown me this?
What do you want me to know?
Then wait.
Do not answer for it.
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Let your psyche answer.
Something may come, a word, an image, a gesture, a feeling, a reluctance.
Remember a refusal is also an answer.
Stay with whatever arrives.
Before you leave, thank the place.
Tell it you may return.
Then turn and walk back the way you came.
When you are ready, gently open your eyes.
A word on self-tenderness: discomfort can be a part of this work, but if the place ever feels overwhelming or frightening rather than merely uncomfortable, you may open your eyes at any moment. Remember you are always the one holding the door.
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Reflection
Write without analysing or editing.
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What appeared? What surprised you?
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Did the place, or anything in it, respond to you? What did it say or do?
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What did you assume you would find, did anything else come instead?
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What feeling stayed with you?
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Did the place feel like home?
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If not, what was missing?
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The House of the Psyche
The psyche returns to houses again and again in dreams.
In psychoanalysis we think about dreams of houses as dreams of the Self.
So less about where you live, and more about who you are.
For Jung, the house was a model of the psyche. The rooms you move through freely are the parts of yourself you have claimed. The doors that will not open are the parts of you, that you have not fully lived.
So pay attention to which house arrives.
We dream of the childhood home and the psyche is telling us about something we are still living inside, even when we believe we left.
We dream of rooms we never knew the house contained and discover, sometimes with a strange joy, that we are larger than we thought.
We dream the house abandoned and ask what in us has been left behind.
We dream our home flooded and feel the unconscious rising faster than the ego can cope with.
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The unconscious chooses these images to help us understand ourselves better.
A house is one of the oldest ways the psyche has of asking us:
How are you living within yourself?
And: which rooms have you locked, and called the locking safety?
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As you think about your own inner house…
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Which room do you spend most of your life in?
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Which room have you boarded shut and what’s behind the boards?
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Which room have you never once entered?
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Which room still holds the child you were?
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Which room contains your creativity, your largeness, your expanse?
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Which room is your grief living in, and is the door ajar?
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Which room is waiting to be lived in?
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Draw your inner house
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where life happens
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the doors you drew, but did not open
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where the light falls
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what has been abandoned
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what feels unexpectedly alive
When you have drawn it, find the room you’ve avoided drawing well, the one you sketched fast, or small, or left as a blank box. That evasion is important information.
Gently go back and stay there if it doesn't feel too painful.
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Now: which room have you been waiting for someone else to unlock for you?
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Reflection
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What keeps the fire of your inner life burning?
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What have you been feeding instead?
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When did you last feel truly gathered within yourself?
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What one small act could tend your inner hearth this week?
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If you tended your own hearth first this week, before the others you feed, what would you have to change?
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Forest Practice:
Building the Second Home
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Imagine you are building an inner home that could welcome every part of who you are.
A home you are choosing.
Don’t think about furniture or decoration.
Think about atmosphere.
Write slowly.
Complete the following sentences.
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In this home, love is…
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In this home, joy is…
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In this home, anger is…
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In this home, rest is…
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In this home, mistakes are…
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In this home, my body is…
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In this home, asking for help is…
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In this home, saying no is…
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In this home, my creativity is…
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In this home, I belong…
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Then sit with what you’ve written.
Notice which sentences came easily.
Notice which felt almost impossible.
Those are often the rooms still under construction.
Tend one room.
This month choose one room of your inner house.
Perhaps it is rest.
Perhaps grief.
Perhaps joy.
Perhaps creativity.
Perhaps receiving.
Ask yourself one simple question every evening:
What did I do today that made this room more inhabitable?
It doesn't have to be perfect.
Just more inhabitable.
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Forest Practice: Home Inventory
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Walk around your actual home.
Ask:
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Where does my home already reflect me?
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Where does it reflect obligation?
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Where have I disappeared?
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What one corner could become more like me?
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Forest Practice: The Guest Room
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Who have you made room for?
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Who occupies your home psychologically?
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Who has a permanent key?
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Who no longer needs one?
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Forest Practice: Tend the Hearth
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Tend One Hearth
Every day tend one thing.
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Fresh flowers.
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One candle.
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One chair.
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One meal.
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One drawer.
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One blanket.
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One corner.
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Relationship.
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Hestia.
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Forest Practice: The Hearth List
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Finish:
The things that warm me are...
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50 answers
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Not goals
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They can be illogical
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Feel indulgent
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Be just for you.
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What warms your soul?
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Forest Practice: Curate One Room
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Rather than rebuilding the whole house.
Choose one room.
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Ask:
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What would this room smell like?
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What would be allowed here?
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Who would be welcome?
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What could happen here that couldn't happen in my first home?
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In the Forest: Moss
Moss is what returns first. Before anything else will grow, moss arrives on bare rock and ruined ground, not waiting for the conditions to be right, but slowly making them right for everything that comes after.
Moss gathers over stone, bark and fallen trees, in liminal places and forgotten places, softening what was once hard, building the thin soil that one day the forest will need.
It begins where it is, with what there is, and almost imperceptibly it changes the character of everything it touches. Ancient walls soften. Ruins become gardens. A fallen tree becomes the beginning of a new forest. Moss nurtures the ground.
And, it’s important to remember, moss has no roots. It cannot store against hard times; it survives by staying close to what sustains it. In drought it dries to what looks like death, shrivelled, brittle, greyed, gone. Then the rain returns, and it greens again.
It waits for conditions it could live in. Perhaps the psyche works in much the same way.
We are taught to expect healing to arrive and declare itself. Giving us a sense of before and after. But it doesn’t work that way, (or rarely).
More often healing comes like moss slowly and stealthily, reclaiming the places we once abandoned, softening the parts of us that survival hardened, returning to life the parts we had given up for dead. Asking nothing of us but that we stop scouring the ground clean every time something tender tries to grow.
Home is grown. In you. In places you have not yet thought to look.
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In the Forest: Moss
Not to answer today.
To muse and ponder.
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What part of me has started to feel more like home this month?
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Where do I still keep returning that no longer belongs to the life I am building?
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What part of me am I still asking another person to carry?
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What does my inner home need from me now?
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What part of myself have I welcomed back?
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What would it mean to tend my own hearth before tending everyone else’s?
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If I no longer had to earn belonging, how would I live differently?
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What am I ready to stop mistaking for home?
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What small act would make my inner world more inhabitable this week?
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“It was when I stopped searching for home within others, and lifted the foundations of home within myself, I found there were no roots more intimate, than those between mind and body, that have decided to be whole.”
Rupi Kaur
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Closing
You have spent this time paying attention differently.
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To the body.
To what you want.
To the spaces you occupy.
To what you place on yourself.
To time that is usually filled before you can feel it.
Now step back into your life, and take this with you.
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Let the world come in and meet you.
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